< How I can help you ... > – Once Upon a Trainwreck™

t’s very important to me that y’all accomplish the transformation you’re seeking, real transformation – not the “transformation fluff” that the “coaching space” perpetuates, so I want to be very clear on how I can help you with that, where other “programs” and coaches may have fallen short.

t’s very important to me that y’all accomplish the transformation you’re seeking, real transformation –

not the “transformation fluff” that the “coaching space” perpetuates, so I want to be very clear on how I can help you with that, where other “programs” and coaches may have fallen short.

t’s very important to me that

y’all accomplish the transformation you’re seeking, real transformation – not the “transformation fluff” that the “coaching space” perpetuates, so I want to be very clear on how I can help you with that, where other “programs” and coaches may have fallen short.

If you do any searching within the “personal development” or “coaching space” on “identity” you’ll find it to be used very willy-nilly, along with “transformation”.

You’ll find things like “social identity,” “human design,” “social markers” and a lot of other concepts based on an identity stemming from the world – which is exactly what we don’t want to base our identity on.

Especially the social identity nonsense.

In one sentence you’ll read how we don’t want to fall into or identify ourselves by social constructs – but in the next, that’s exactly what they’ll tell you to use to identify yourself. Defining you by social markers, therefore constructing your whole identity from the outside in.

The world likes to define us by what can be seen and measured – job title, relationship status, accomplishments, roles, possessions. The outside-in construct, building, defining and designing your identity by way of external justification and validation which keeps us striving to make The Princess Costume™ fit.

It never will.

What I do is teach you how to challenge all of that – everything the world has ever told you about who you’re supposed to be, have to be, or “need” to be. Re-defining and re-designing your identity from an abstract pov, completely outside of the world and social narrative.

You may find someone else who touches on defining your identity by who you really are – but the basis of what most “identity coaches” teach is derived from the world. Essentially defining your identity by your life. Which is completely backwards and the opposite of what I teach.

You will never establish a genuine sense of who you are working from the outside in.

Here – we flip it.

Identity → Embodiment of the Identity → Application to Life = Transformation.

Your identity is the foundation of everything that flows down the river from there – your life.

Not the other way around.

This is where we start – by conceptualizing your Anti-Princess Identity™, deconstructing all of the worldly identifiers and building from the inside out. It may initially feel backwards and glitchy – because that’s exactly what the world has conditioned us to believe. We’ve been taught to identify ourselves based on worldly constructs, from the outside in. Identifiers vs. reflections. There’s a big difference between the two.

You may or may not have experienced a devastating external trainwreck. Sometimes that’s the kicker – what you’re aware of vs. what reality actually is.

But here’s the thing that’s always true:

There’s always a tower.

If you’ve found your way here searching for help – you’re trapped in something. Whether it be a way of thinking, “circumstances,” something you may define as just “life.”

The construction of the tower is different for each of us. But it’s always there.

That’s what we deconstruct first. And that’s exactly what I can help you do.

This is why we start at the beginning: identifying what built the tower, what built it then – picking the pieces of you out of the rubble and the wreckage, conceptualizing your Anti-Princess Identity™ Outline, writing the rough then final draft, full embodiment, then application to life.

The identity first. Everything else follows.

Before I go any further into this, I want to be very clear about something –

My intention with everything I’m doing here is to help other women. I believe that identity is the root of everything in our life – all of the good, bad, ugly and beautiful™ things.

You won’t find anything here, or in any of The Anti-Princess™ Intensive, the Collectives, Masterclasses – private teaching or coaching, from cookie-cutter “coaching kits,” templates or scripts. I’ve never used anything like that and I commit to never using anything like that.

Everything you’ll find here comes straight out of my very peculiar and sometimes “mad-genuis” mind.

I’m very real, sometimes messy but always transparent – no put-ons, no trying to maintain a particular image.

Just me.

Everything I write and speak comes directly from my own research – the topics and theories I’ve studied and learned, either proving, disproving or deconstructing.

I’ve dive into research. I don’t piggyback on anyone else’s.

If I name a specific scientific theory or concept that I fully believe in, I will cite the scientist or author.

When I write or speak against something, it’s not with the intention of being ugly or belittling anyone – it’s because I genuinely believe it’s to your detriment, or that of women as a whole.

And – I will never try to sell you something I don’t genuinely believe will help you. If I encourage something, it will never be to manufacture an urgency, but only because I believe it will help[.

If I don’t believe I can help you, I’ll tell you.

Once you outline it, embody it and apply it to your life – you’re not stuck in concrete. Identity isn’t linear. As we learn and grow, our identity can evolve with us. It can be relative to the season we’re in, the woman we’re becoming, the chapters we’re living through.

And here’s something worth noting – personality isn’t identity either. The world hands us personality labels like they’re definitions. Introvert. Type A. Sensitive. Overthinker. They’re not who you are. They’re expressions of the identity you’ve been operating from. Change the identity – what gets expressed changes too.

I’ll give you a real example. I had a nose ring for about five years. It was genuinely mine at the time – an authentic expression of who I was in that season of my life. And then I grew into someone for whom it was no longer a reflection of my identity. So it went. No drama. No crisis. Just honest evolution.

The aviators and the ballcap though – those are staples. The aviators I just like ’em. The ballcap is practical – I work outside a lot, it keeps the sun off my face and my hair from being all over the place. They’re not markers or identifiers, they’re not even “expressions”. They’re just accessories. But the distinction between what stays and what goes – that’s identity fluidity in real life.

Your Anti-Princess Identity™ Outline isn’t a cage, it isn’t a self-imposed limitation. It’s the framework and foundation – not limiting what you build, but making it possible.

You conceptualize the outline. You write the rough and final drafts, embody your Anti-Princess Identity™ and apply her to life – in real time, as life happens. You take the pen and write your own happily ever after, in a whole new fairytale.

Teaching is providing information for the purpose of education and learning – so you can understand, implement and make changes.

Coaching is helping and supporting you through the application, implementation and execution of those changes.

I do both.

The distinction is important – because what I teach is a proprietary framework built from extensive research, and what I coach is the lived application of that framework and the building of your foundation, specific to you, in your specific life, your specific chapters, your happily ever after, in your whole new fairytale.

Think of it this way: when most people first learn to ride a bicycle, they use training wheels for a while. The teaching is understanding how a bicycle works – balance, momentum, steering. The coaching is the training wheels – not because you need someone to hold your hand, but because re-defining and re-designing your identity from an abstract pov, navigating worldly influences, expectations and self-esteem-sucking judgements at every door and around every corner trying to tell you what’s what, can definitely make you wobble.

The training wheels help you ride out the wobble.

And then they come off.

The Anti-Princess™ Intensive

The Anti-Princess™ Intensive is the foundation of everything here – live, intentional, maybe a little messy, but real and transparent. We start by challenging everything the world has ever told you about who you’re supposed to be by shedding the identity you’ve been wearing – The Princess Costume™ and coming to a hard stop in you Perfect Princess Performance™

Most of it was handed to you, imposed on you, conditioned into you or built inadvertently just by you to survive the world you were trying to muddle through. The Anti-Princess™ Intensive is where you dive in – brutally honest, without flinching and no tip-toeing – picking the pieces of you out of the rubble and the wreckage and beginning to see what’s actually yours for the very first time.

You leave with your Anti-Princess Identity™ Outline – the first honest, written articulation of who you are from the inside out. Not who the world decided you should be, from the outside; not who you’ve been performing as.

Who you were meant to be all along.

Available in 2 study tracks – Fundamental, for the woman who wants the Core Identity Framework + Foundation, and Beyond , for the woman who wants the “how” of the Quantum Mechanics of Identity and the framework and foundation of the Quantum Architecture of Identity™ woven throughout.

In addition to The Anti-Princess™ Intensive, I’m building a “sampler platter” of Standalone Masterclasses – each one focused on a specific element of the complete transformation arc.

These are great introductions to Once Upon a Trainwreck™ – and to me, my unique and possibly acquired taste. Some go a little deeper on specific introductory concepts, all of them pulled from my “mad-genius” and proprietary framework + foundation. No kits, no scripts and no “koolaid.”

Collectives

The Anti-Princess™ Intensive is where you conceptualize her, who you were meant to be all along.

The Rapunzel’d™ Collective is where you become her and get comfortable being her. Moving from the outline you wrote in The Anti-Princess™ Intensive through the rough draft, then the final draft of your Anti-Princess Identity™.

Becoming. Being. – in real time, in the real, everyday moments.

The A Whole New Fairytale™ Collective is the application to life.

Your Anti-Princess Identity™ – conceptualized, fully embodied, applied to your life – taking the pen and beginning to write your own happily ever after, in a whole new fairytale™.

Both Collectives are available in Fundamental and Beyond Study Tracks, following the same path you began in The Anti-Princess™ Intensive. Moving from the Fundamental to the Beyond track at any point is possible through the On-Ramp – or the On-Ramp and the Bridge in sequence, depending on where you are in the complete transformation arc.

Private Teaching + Coaching

Option 1
Just me and you, meeting right where you are in your complete transformation arc. Whether you’re just starting out in The Anti-Princess™ Intensive, heading into The Rapunzel’d™ Collective, or saddling up for The A Whole New Fairytale™ Collective, or somewhere in between. This option follows your story, your current chapter, your specific life.

This isn’t generic “life coaching.” It’s private teaching + coaching rooted in the abstract – applied specifically and personally to you, where you actually happen to be in this moment.

Option 2
For the woman who wants the embark on the Once Upon a Trainwreck™ adventure of the complete transformation arc privately taught, just me and you, at an accelerated pace.

You’ll be invited to join the Kingdom’s social feature, but all of your teaching and coaching will be private.

This option takes you through the complete transformation arc – from The Anti-Princess™ Intensive through both of the Collectives – compressed into an intensive personal experience. Everything Once Upon a Trainwreck™ delivers, entirely to you.

Your timeline. Your pace. Your happily ever after, in your whole new fairytale.

Available in both Fundamental and Beyond Study Tracks.